"How you receive adds value to life"

"How you receive adds value to life"
May the New Year brings new hopes, new promises and new reasons to celebrate your presence in your lives. Have a Joyous New Year………………. :)
It is better to give than to receive. I am sure that you have heard this many times. I am also sure that many of you believe this. If you do you have possibly caused much unhappiness in your life and in the lives of those who love you.
How often have you been given or offered something only to refuse it "I couldn't possibly take this" or to say "Oh you shouldn't have" What are you saying to the giver, that they have made a mistake, that they shouldn't like you.
You are complimented, on your dress "Oh this old rag, just grabbed the first thing I could find", on your looks, "Gee your hair looks great today" "Oh no." you say "It needs to be washed and it is far too long". What is the message that you send "Are you dumb or what, have you no sense of taste or style, how can you possibly like this"
How often have you been thanked for you contribution to a project and you say "Oh it was nothing" If it was nothing why did you do it? And have you noticed how upset you can become when these ungrateful people do not thank you for having done "nothing".
The problem is that we don't accept or like ourselves. We do not have a sense of our own worth therefore find it difficult to accept that anyone else can think that we are wonderful. In fact the way some people act you would think that there is some cosmic benefit in constantly putting yourself down.
All too often though it is merely a pretence at humility. Secretly you are thrilled. Don't you think it would be great to let the giver know how happy you really are.
Do you enjoy giving? Why of course I do. I am a giver not a taker. Do you get a sense of satisfaction from giving? Why of course I do. Would you say that you are a kind and generous person? Why of course I am, well, not all the time but I do try.
If this is true then why do you deny those giving you a gift, recognition, a compliment, the pleasure of giving? Why do you make them feel that their gift has no value to you? Why do you take from them their sense of joy?
If you truly want to be a "giver" then learn to accept graciously. You do not have to be effusive often a simple "thank you" or "I really appreciate that" or "I am glad you noticed" is all that is needed, but learn to accept graciously because "How you receive adds value to life"

With Best Regards......